Why do most people fail to understand introverts
5 tips for introverts
In our society, energetic, articulate, and extroverted people usually have an advantage. But that doesn't mean there is something wrong with less confident introverted types - on the contrary: introverts have unique qualities.
Introverts have a number of advantages. Your talent for delving deeply into a topic and clearly recognizing and analyzing the consequences of certain things is very useful, both privately and professionally. They are good observers, tend to think outside the box and have the power to make their world spin a little slower. In short: every temperament has its advantages and therefore every reason to look proudly in the mirror.
And but it is often not easy as an introvert to present yourself confidently. No wonder - because many introverts have often been drowned out by extroverts in the course of their lives, so that their self-image is often a little lower. Since they are often delayed in answering or reacting or being at a loss for words, they quickly get the feeling that they are not thinking too quickly. And their tendency to keep their own opinions to themselves until they are really sure of it quickly leads to them being stigmatized as closed. In addition, introverts tend to brood over themselves and often think endlessly about uncomfortable situations. They are therefore much more prone to self-criticism than extroverts. But that need not be:
Here are 5 tips for introverts to try out
1) Admit more to yourself
For example, to only stay briefly at a party or just to watch people there instead of socializing. Then the overcoming of going to events or festivals is not that great. Start small.
2) Use your listening talent
Introverts can listen well, which is a great skill these days. Most people long to be heard and understood. So first summarize in your own words what the other person said. This gives you time to think about it and makes you appear particularly interested, attentive and appreciative.
3) Jump in the cold water
Introverts tend to just listen in meetings or at gatherings. They think about what is being said and only react later - sometimes only after the appointment or meeting. Try to get involved in discussions so that you get more noticed. Lean forward slightly, lift your finger a little, or speak by name to someone who speaks often. Be sure to speak clearly. And: Do this right at the beginning to lose your shyness. Before a meeting or meeting, prepare a few questions to ask. This is often easier than talking yourself.
4) Show that you are there
Because introverts don't like to push themselves forward, they are more likely to say they achieved something with the team or did something with someone. But it is also important to get credit for what you do. Therefore, you should also say “I” instead of “we”. Find “quiet ways” to show others your accomplishments, such as sending a department email with interesting news.
5) Trust in your qualities
Introverts are often good at one-to-one conversations. Therefore, try to hold a job meeting with the boss on a regular basis. This is good for your relationship, and it helps you show what you're contributing to the company and see what else you can do. Go out to lunch or have a coffee with an interesting colleague. Strengthen the bond by keeping in touch and exchanging ideas.
Try to trust yourself more often, you can't lose anything. Because avoiding things is often the beginning of many problems and blockages. And in life we usually do not regret what we have done, but rather what we have not done.
Sources for reading:
Cain, S. (2013). Still: the importance of introverts in a noisy world. Riemann publishing house.
Hills, P., & Argyle, M. (2001). Happiness, introversion – extraversion and happy introverts. Personality and individual differences, 30 (4), 595-608.
Marinković, M. M. (1981). The Importance of Introversion to Science and Creativity. Analytical Psychology, 12, 1-35.
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