Why does a baby wake up crying

This is how your baby sleeps well

Dr. Bernhard Hoch (Sleep doctor at the Josefinum Children's and Youth Clinic in Augsburg) and Beatrice Cosmovici (Employee of the Munich office hours for baby cribs) discuss the ten most common problems.

Problem # 1: My husband is on Mondays during the week. If he comes home on the weekend, our daughter (ten months) sleeps more restlessly. What can we do?

Dr. High: It is important that you always keep the same rhythm - regardless of whether your husband is at home or at work. Your daughter has to learn that the day on Sunday is the same as on Monday, namely with fixed times for getting up, playing, eating, going to bed and sleeping. Coordinate accordingly with your husband.

Problem No. 2: Our son (1) makes a lot of fuss when he goes to bed. At 6 p.m. he is tired and rubs his eyes. Then I put it down. When I leave the room, he cries. The only way to calm him down is when I hold his hand - it can take an hour.

Dr. High: Try to put your son down before he gets too tired. There are sleep windows every 45 minutes. These are times when children fall asleep particularly easily. If such a sleep window is closed again, it is difficult to fall asleep. Typical signs of fatigue: The child becomes restless and whimpered, it can no longer be distracted by jokes. It rubs its eyes and ears, yawns, turns its head and avoids intensive eye contact. His gaze is glassy, ​​it looks nowhere. With a little trial and error, you are sure to find out your son's sleep window. This will make it easier for him to get used to it without putting your hand to sleep.

Problem No. 3: So far our daughter (1) has always slept through the night. Recently she has been waking up again shortly after falling asleep, crying and only falling asleep on my arm. Can that be the teeth? Or is she having a bad dream? Will it pass?

Dr. High: That the teeth are the reason, I think it is rather unlikely. From about the sixth month onwards, you always push and you would plague your little one during the day. However, there are phases in which children sleep poorly and wake up at night. This is often related to a changeover: from summer to winter time, after vacation, after visiting grandma ... It is then important that you calm your daughter down in bed and not take her out. Otherwise she learns: When I wake up, I'll get closer to mom. Your daughter may also be dreaming. Make sure she is actually awake. Because children can also cry in dreams. In that case, leave your daughter alone.

Problem No. 4: Our daughter (8 ½ months) sometimes wakes up every hour at night and can hardly be reassured. During the day she sleeps half an hour in the morning, 45 minutes at noon and again between 6.30 p.m. and 7.30 p.m. If I put her to bed at 9 p.m., it often takes an hour for her to fall asleep. Do you have any advice?

Dr. High: Your daughter wakes up at night because she is no longer tired enough. With three naps a day, there isn't much time left for a good night's sleep. So keep a sleep log for a while. The best thing to do is to write a plan of how you would like your day to be structured. For example, the first meal at 7 a.m., play and tidy up until 8.30 a.m., rest from 9 a.m. to 10 a.m., shop from 10 a.m. to 12 noon, go for a walk, etc. From 12 p.m. to 12.30 p.m. lunch, rest from 1 p.m. to 2.30 p.m. Everyone who has to do with the child adheres to this plan, including the father, grandma, babysitter, etc. Your child goes to bed at the time that is optimal for you. Why not already at 7 p.m.? Try to get there every three quarters of an hour. So far, if your baby goes to bed at 9 p.m., then put him down at 8:15 p.m. After ten minutes, leave the room. If your daughter is crying, go back in after five minutes, stroke her and talk to her soothingly, but don't take her out of bed. This sleep training requires patience and consistency. It is best to take turns with your partner, then you can do it more easily. It can take a few days for the little one to get used to the new rhythm.

Problem No. 5: I read everywhere that babies should sleep on their backs to protect them from sudden infant death syndrome. So far I've also paid attention to it. But for a few weeks now our son (six months) has been turning from back to stomach at night. I get up and turn it back. But it doesn't take long and he's back on his stomach again. That scares me!

Beatrice Cosmovici: There are children who just want to sleep on their stomachs. It was the same with my two daughters. Don't worry - your son isn't that small anymore. He can probably lift his head on his own and turn it to the side. You can also practice this with him during the day: lay him on his stomach and play or joke with him. You should also take everything that is superfluous out of his bed, such as pillows, blankets or lots of cuddly toys. Then you are on the safe side!

Problem No. 6: Our son (2) has been wandering into our bed between two and three o'clock at night for some time. There he falls asleep again immediately - but I am wide awake and can no longer rest. I've tried to get our little one back to his bed, but then he screams.

Beatrice Cosmovici: Many children have phases in which they seek closeness to their parents at night, for example when they are sick, have bad dreams or the day was very exciting. That's fine too, as long as it's acceptable to the parents. Talk to your husband and find a common line. If you need some rest at night, you should lovingly and consistently tell your little one that everyone sleeps in their own bed. You won't harm your son with it! It only becomes difficult when the parents do not behave clearly. Children notice fickleness immediately and begin to whine - until they have reached their goal: their parents' bed.

Problem # 7: We've tried so much already. Nevertheless, our baby sleeps little (one month) and cries a lot. What else can we do?

Beatrice Cosmovici: Your baby is probably overexcited. Important to know: In newborns, the center in the brain that regulates waking and sleeping is not yet fully developed. It takes about three months to mature. During this time, parents should make sure that their baby is not subjected to too many stimuli. It's good if you lay it down more often so that it gets enough sleep. If a baby is awake for about an hour or an hour and a half at one month, it needs a break again. Otherwise, at some point, it will be so overwrought that it will no longer find its way to sleep. At the first signs of tiredness, such as yawning and rubbing their eyes, place your child in bed and darken the room. If it cries, sit down next to it and stroke your child. When it is completely beside yourself, you can pick it up and calm it down by rocking it gently back and forth.

Problem No. 8: Our daughter (eight months) only falls asleep on my chest. I still almost fully breastfeed, at noon the little one gets a porridge and then the breast. She doesn't take a bottle, I've already tried that.

Dr. High: At eight months, your daughter doesn't need to drink anything at night - neither milk nor tea. If you want to separate falling asleep from drinking, now is the time to show her: the breast is only there for meals. This change will certainly take a while, because your daughter has learned to be comforted at the breast. It is best to make a schedule with fixed times for breastfeeding - this makes it easier to control.

Problem # 9: Our son (1) often wakes up at night. He just falls asleep again quickly in my bed. He doesn't like his bed. He screams when I put him in there during the day because I want to take a shower.

Dr. High: It is understandable that your son does not like his bed. For him, this is not the place where he sleeps, but that is where he is put because mom wants to take a shower. Better to put him in a playpen instead of his bed in the future.

Problem # 10: My son (eight months) wakes up every now and then at night crying. The pacifier can be used to calm him down quickly, but I've heard that children shouldn't be given pacifiers at night. That's why my son gets tea. I would like to sleep through the night again.

Beatrice Cosmovici: You can give your son the pacifier. Just put three of them in bed with him, he'll grab one if he wakes up. It's definitely better than giving a vial at night. Your baby no longer needs to drink anything at his age. If you give your son the bottle, he will get used to it in the long run and your sleep will be even more disturbed.