Is life perfect

The illusion of perfection: why nothing in life is perfect

The pursuit of perfection accompanies many of us in all areas of life: We want to do a great job, have a flawless body, spend wonderful vacations on paradisiacal beaches, and then post the perfect pictures of this perfect trip on Instagram. We always push ourselves to the limit - professionally and privately - and are far from satisfied with 100 percent. True to the motto: There is more! After all, you only live once and if you really want to be successful, you have to walk an extra mile after the next. Or not? Is it all an illusion of perfection?

Well, of course you should go full throttle. If you want to climb the career ladder, have a muscular body or want to afford luxury vacations, you will be asked a lot. Success at times can also mean that you have to be ready to push your own pain threshold. But it doesn't mean that you have to be perfect in all situations all the time. Because those who strive for perfection are in constant competition with themselves and others that they can only lose in the long term. And anyway: who or what is actually perfect?

Illusion of Perfection: Dangerous Comparisons

Perfection is often related to an ideal that either arises in your head or is dictated by social norms. The media and social networks in particular keep suggesting to us what the perfect life should look like or how a perfect body should be defined. Even the top model on the magazine cover doesn't look like the top model on the magazine cover in real life. Lots of staging and subsequent optimization make it possible and ensure that this model looks like it is completely perfect.

This is exactly where perfection begins to become dangerous. Young, insecure and unstable people in particular can be dazzled by supposedly perfect ideals. They begin to doubt themselves and emulate an idea they will never achieve. Because neither a person, nor life, nor anything else is ever perfect. Perfection is neither natural nor desirable. And the more we get used to the idea, the more relaxed we become. Because we understand that we don't even need to chase an unrealistic state that we can never achieve anyway.

Self-love helps against the illusion of perfection

Instead of doubting ourselves, we should use our energy to develop more confidence and self-love. Because setting your goals so high that they are unattainable is pretty frustrating in the long run. You could also say: the pursuit of perfection is the best guarantee for frustration and disappointment. Those who deal with themselves in this way shouldn't be surprised if their motivation falls by the wayside at some point. Because much more important than a top job, a firm body or a vacation on the dream beach are self-love, self-acceptance and the appreciation of your own performance and your own body. Don't let the illusion of perfection wear your last nerve. Here are three tips for more self-love:

1. Develop a positive self-image

You are wonderful - exactly as you are. You don't have to get bigger, smaller, fatter, thinner, smarter, richer, or any other way to be lovable. It is you already. And it's time you showed this love for yourself. Once you develop a positive self-image, you automatically become self-confident. You understand that you don't have to emulate an ideal to live a happy and fulfilling life. Because true happiness comes from within.

2. Free yourself from other people's opinions

Stop comparing yourself to others and making other people's ideals your own. Who says you have to have a well-paying managerial job of 70 hours a week? Who tells you how much you can weigh in order to be “beautiful”? And why do you value the opinions of others so much? Perhaps you know the following saying: “We buy things that we don't need with money that we don't have, in order to impress people we don't like.” You don't find happiness on the outside, but on the inside. And what others think or say does not matter there.

3. Let five be straight

Do you know how to live a carefree, happy life? Quite simply: By being relaxed about yourself. Don't be too strict on yourself, but treat yourself like your best friend. Imagine your best friend makes a mistake. Would you say to him: "I told you right away that you couldn't do it"? Probably not. Friends are given encouraging, motivating words. You are there for friends. It is time to be there for yourself too. Don't let every little thing throw you off track, learn to be your own best friend and let five be your own.

Uniqueness instead of perfection

The world is full of people trying to be perfect. However, what this world needs much more is people who are unique. The world needs lateral thinkers, visionaries and people with creative ideas and the courage to implement them. Be one of them! Do not try to be a perfect follower, but go your own way and learn that perfection does not exist. Life is colorful, wild, diverse, unpredictable and unique - but never perfect. It has a lot to offer. But it will never be entirely perfect. And that's just as well.